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For those turned on to giving or receiving power, the hottest fantasies are often those that are the least acceptable -- those that mirror historical oppression (Nazism, plantation slavery), crime (incest, ageplay, rape), and other ""unacceptable"" behaviors. Because these fantasies are deeply charged, they are among the riskiest and most challenging to enact. Yet it is possible, and often very rewarding, to do so. In this guide, Mollena Williams, a Black woman who enjoys roleplaying racism and slavery with the right person, explains ways to safeguard these difficult scenes to ensure the emotional and physical safety of all concerned. With sections on playing with sexual taboos like age and rape, cultural taboos like race and identity, and physical taboos like scat play, this is a thorough and responsible guide to BDSM's furthest regions.
About the Author
Mollena has more than 12 years' experience in the BDSM and alternative lifestyle community, and has traveled across the nation speaking about race play and other taboo playstyles. Her essay ""BDSM and Race Play"" has been selected for Best Sex Writing 2010. Her website, ""The Perverted Negress,"" is at www.mollena.com.
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Slavery. Genocide. Holocaust. Warfare. Racism. Hate. These are ugly realities of life. Why would you want to plunge yourself headlong into the darkest part of the human psyche for sexual gratification? How can you know anyone well enough to know that they do not really REALLY believe what they are saying to you? Aren't you playing into the hands of self-hatred or real bigotry when you do BDSM around racial identity? Aren't you afraid of being really damaged? These are all questions I have been asked, and asked myself, ever since I realized that I had a visceral curiosity about pushing the edges of my kinky play into the most oblique corners of my psyche. Can you really play with the terrible truths of hatred and racism and oppression and reemerge safely? Yes. I do. I do it, albeit selectively and extremely rarely, because it is a quick slide to one of the darkest edges of my psyche, and that of my play partners. It is emotionally dangerous. Like life. And yes, I live it. And yes, I have experienced racism. But that doesn't lead me to fight, flight or fear,which are all heads of the same Cerberus. I am curious about fucked-up edge play, so I ""go there.""
- ISBN: 9781890159757